Ask Cynthia

Q: “How do I get past all the fears that are coming up as I begin to expand?” Having lots of fear surface during the awakening process is completely normal, and you can learn how to lessen its hold on you. Imagine that you live in a box, and every time you wish to grow your box, you feel more excited than scared… #41 in the Ask Cynthia series

Q: “Why is the Law of Attraction not working for me?” The law is the law. It’s non-negotiable. Which means we are each all always attracting exactly what we are putting out. If you don’t like what you’re attracting, this is a seriously good reason to take a deep look at your own thoughts, feelings, beliefs and intentions, both conscious and subconscious… #40 in the Ask Cynthia series

Q: “How do I get out of the judgment of my past partying days?” If you are awakened now, this is an excellent indication that you have already successfully completed a huge part of your soul’s spiritual curriculum for this lifetime. Most of the human population remains fast asleep, so getting woke is no small deal. Those partying days were some of the first steps toward your freedom… #39 in the Ask Cynthia series

Q: “How do I make my partner care about me again?” Feeling uncared for in relationship sucks. Relationship is a mirror. And the only way to change this particular mirror is to learn how to care about yourself. Care about your own needs, care about your own feelings, care about your own dreams and desires… #38 in the Ask Cynthia series

Q: “How do I get past what other people think about me?” Worrying about what other’s think is one of the major issues that holds people back from following their own heart’s desires and fulfilling their soul’s purpose. Letting go of this fear requires understanding that other people’s stuff is their own – it actually has nothing to do with you… #37 in the Ask Cynthia series

Q: “I have so much joy with my children – why can’t I feel that joy at work?” Having access to joy means that joy is now part of your state of Being – it’s just a matter now of channeling that joy into every area of your life, including your work-life… #36 in the Ask Cynthia series

Q: “Why do feel so impatient about how fast my process is going?” Wanting the awakening process to go faster than it’s going is a frustrating yet very common experience. The only way out is to cultivate some acceptance for this place, this current lesson, this current moment… #35 in the Ask Cynthia series

Q: “How can I get more money to flow? So tired of struggling…” This is the million dollar question, how to make the money flow. The deal is that money flows just like rain… you have to be able to catch the rain or it simply runs right off of you. How big is your current money container? A thimble, a cup, a bucket or a barrel… #34 in the Ask Cynthia series

Q: “Why do I keep sabotaging myself with thoughts like ‘who am I to be spiritual’?” The awakening process is a journey of coming up out of the right/wrong, fear-based perspective into the Loving. And most of us have many old parts that are still steeped in fear-energies. Including feelings of inequality, less-than, unworthiness, etc. Getting to know these parts and reeling them into the Loving is what this journey is all about… #33 in the Ask Cynthia series

Q: “How can I help someone who doesn’t want my help?” This is a common quandary for over-givers and chronic helpers.  The problem is that, on the soul level, this isn’t actually helpful sort of help. This is the kind of help that comes from a perspective of inequality – the superiority side of the coin – where the other person is viewed as ‘less capable’, ‘helpless’, ‘powerless’, or even ‘pitiful’. Get over yourself and learn to give people the dignity of their own process and timing and readiness… #32 in the Ask Cynthia series

Q: “I thought I had found my soulmate, but then why did it all fall apart?” To comprehend how this could happen, it’s important to understand why we are here as souls in human form. We are here to learn and grow and evolve. We learn best in relationship. If your shit has hit the fan, that’s amazing! It’s just an indicator that there’s a strong mirror going on and lots to learn from each other… #31 in the Ask Cynthia series

Q: “Why do I feel so misunderstood?” Feeling misunderstood is a normal phase in the awakening experience. Moving up out of the mainstream ‘herd’ mentality into the expanded awareness of the Loving is a big shift in consciousness. And, it’s really irrational to continue to wish that someone who hasn’t yet awakened to your degree could possibly understand your new perspective when they haven’t yet seen it for themselves… #30 in the Ask Cynthia series

Q: “Why can’t I leave my codependent relationship?” If you’re having trouble leaving an unhealthy relationship, it’s a pretty good indicator that you still have more to learn from it. Accept where you are. Get super interested in what the lessons are here for you. Juice the situation in every possible way. Get committed to growing from this as much as you can possibly grow. Once you’ve gotten the lesson, you’ll be free to move on with ease… #28 in the Ask Cynthia series

Q: “Why do I have to keep looking at something I’ve already healed?” Healing unravels in layers. Imagine circling up the mountain and arriving at the same view time and time again, only you’ll be seeing it from a higher perspective each time. If you just keep going, at some point you’ll make it to the top… #27 in the Ask Cynthia series

Q: “Why can’t I figure out my soul’s purpose? It’s driving me crazy!” Wondering about soul’s purpose is common. The thing to understand is that soul’s purpose is unraveling all the time. Purpose builds upon our experience. So wherever you are right now in your life is right where you need to be…. #26 in the Ask Cynthia series

Q: “How do I own the mirror in relationship?” Owning the mirror is all about getting out of blame by taking full personal responsibility for your own thoughts, feelings, actions and responses. It will move your relationship from a mainstream relationship to conscious relationship – it’s like buying a fast-pass to Self-realization… #25 in the Ask Cynthia series

Q: “Why do I keep attracting the same narcissistic man over and over again? Help!” Attracting a narcissist is a mirror for some old, unresolved patterns of behavior such as over-giving. The key to shift this mirror and beginning to attract something healthier is to learn to fill yourself first, and then give from the overflow… #24 in the Ask Cynthia series

Q: “How does soul view suicidal thoughts? And are these part of my awakening process?” Having suicidal thoughts arise during the awakening process is normal for anyone who’s ever had a suicidal thought; the key is to use them toward your own liberation… #23 in the Ask Cynthia series

Q: “How do I move from lack to abundance in every area of my life?” Understanding what, exactly, the Universal Law of Abundance really means can point the way towards greater prosperity… #22 in the Ask Cynthia series

Q: “What is non-duality?” Non-duality – the newest catch-phrase… What’s all the fuss about? #12 in the Ask Cynthia series