Have you ever felt stucker than stuck? Then felt like throwing in the towel? How many times have you heard, ‘I give up! I can’t do this ________ anymore’ (fill in the blank)?
If you have ever felt like giving up due to frustration, disappointment or fear, you are so not alone. Feeling stuck along the path is a normal obstacle that many people encounter along their journey.
The problem with acting on that feeling is that your soul will be pushing you to up-level. What that means is that if you give up on something that your soul wants you to do, at some point you’ll be compelled to start all over, get yourself back to the place you left off, and face that very same hurdle again. You could start something and give up a dozen times, or you could refuse to up-level ever again out of fear of facing that obstacle again.
How many people do you know who have given up on a dream because they’ve hit a tough obstacle?
There really is only one healthy option: persevere.
Here’s how I like to look at the growth process: Imagine you are climbing a mountain. You might be winding up the path at a nice, steady pace. The sun is shining, it’s a beautiful day, and all is well in your world. Then you might stop to explore a cave in the side of the mountain. Inside of the cave, it is dark, cold and dank. It might feel scary inside of that cave. Who knows what may be lurking in the dark? But, you have to find something in that cave. Even if you don’t want to be in the cave anymore, there is a part of yourself that knows there is a reason you are there.
The sunny path can be likened to times when you are residing in joy, going with the flow. Some irrational beliefs may surface for your attention, and you will quickly be able to apply compassionate self-forgiveness and update your beliefs with grace and ease.
The cave could be likened to hitting an internal obstacle. You can go no further until you find out whatever you need to find in that cave. If you give up and go back down the mountain, you’ll just find yourself climbing back here again in six months, a year, ten years, your next lifetime… however long it takes you to do whatever it is that you need to do here in this cave.
What I like to suggest is that when you find yourself in that dark place – that cave – feeling frustrated, angry, upset, afraid or whatever it is that you feel in that place, instead of giving up, get interested.
What piece of information is stored in here that is keeping you stuck? Imagine finding a stash of equipment. Strap on a headlight, grab a flashlight and a pickax and go exploring. Know that just outside, the sun is still shining, and even though it feels drafty, all is still well in your world.
See what is inside of this cave. Be willing to look in the nooks and crannies, under rocks and in all the tunnels. Go deep. If you can do this from a place of curiosity, joy and the innocence of a child, you will experience nothing short of delight each time you discover another irrationality that was hiding in the dark recesses of your consciousness. When you unearth the one you came in to find, it will feel like you just struck gold. You will have a moment of unadulterated triumph – maybe even give a shout of ‘Eureka!’ And you will find yourself back in the sunshine, free to run further up the mountain.
Remember my story about Randy from #83? Randy had truly thought he could never be happy; he was stuck in a cave along his journey, and there was no easy way out. Randy decided to persevere. He became willing to look into his internal darkness from a place of acceptance, if not excitement. Randy took his time exploring his old, limiting beliefs, discovering many layers of irrationality that had contributed to his lack of happiness. He finally hit upon a belief that said something like, ‘life sucks and then you die’. This was it, the golden nugget that had been keeping him in suffering for years.
He realized that he had decided early on in life that he was powerless to change that idea – he truly thought his life had to suck and would always be miserable. Once he decided he was not powerless, that he was, in fact, connected to the infinite source of power, he decided that he did have the power to change his mind.
Randy claimed his power, deciding that life was a wonderful, exciting adventure, filled with infinite possibility. In the process of updating his view on life, he accessed inner joy for the first time ever. As Randy soaked in the energy of joy, he instantly acknowledged that happiness was indeed not ‘out there in the future’, but that he’d had access to it all along on the inside. Randy’s depression lifted immediately, and he has been residing in joy ever since.
If you feel stuck at any time, know that this is an opportunity for you to go exploring. Imagine that your goal is to gather as much information as you can find about your issue – whatever is causing you to feel stuck. What do you think about this? How do you feel about this? What does this remind you of? Have you ever felt this way before? Write about it. Talk it out to yourself or to a trusted friend. Write down any and all irrationalities you come across. Persevere until you hit the vein of gold. Say, “I now persevere if I get stuck. I now view this from the perspective of excitement, seeing it as an opportunity to gather more information about my obstacle.”
Many Blessings of Joy and Vibrant Freedom
Action Step ~ If you find yourself stuck along your journey, persevere. Cultivate an attitude of joy and excitement as you explore your personal obstacles.
Declaration: “I am willing to persevere when I feel stuck. I now view my obstacles from a perspective of joy and excitement. I now curiously explore my consciousness as I hold the knowing that all is well in my world.”
Additional Support: Listen to this 10-minute closed-eye process on persevering when feeling stuck; please refrain from driving while listening.