Do you ever find yourself banging your head against a brick wall in a futile attempt to feel accepted?
How many people do you know who struggle with this on a daily basis? Think of the women who are striving to be accepted in male-dominated fields, the black students who have to jump through hoops to receive a crumb of acceptance from an all-white faculty, the gay men who yearn to be accepted in the military or by the ball team – the list is long and varied.
It doesn’t matter what the distinction is – race, nationality, religion, gender, sexual orientation, socioeconomic status – if you’ve ever felt different in any way, you’ve likely felt unaccepted or unacceptable as a result.
And, the feeling of lack of acceptance does not stop with minorities; in fact, almost every person I’ve ever known has had some level of pain, suffering or frustration due to feeling unaccepted or unacceptable; it is one of the most common issues I see, day after day in my work.
Many people are still looking to be accepted by their parents, colleagues or peers. Some people want to be accepted by their friends, classmates or teammates. Some people want to be accepted by society, the press or a literary agent.
Who are you looking to for acceptance? Do you want a crumb of acceptance – such as tolerance – or do you seek full-on, love-me-warts-and-all type of acceptance?
The trap of looking outside for acceptance is that no matter how hard you look, you will never find it. External acceptance is an illusion. The universal law of manifestation states: Inner reality creates outer reality. Another way to put it is, ‘As within, so without’. What this means is that if you are lacking internal acceptance, your outer world will simply mirror that lack of acceptance. Trying to get the mirror to change is not only impossible; it is frustrating, demeaning and exhausting.
If you are looking anywhere outside of yourself for acceptance, you are going to eventually get tired of the head-banging. Thankfully, the solution is easy; get sourced from within and simply claim, “I accept myself.”
Now, the first few times you say this, you might not believe it. You may feel like you are just giving lip service to this idea. Hang in there, because you’ll be learning some tools to integrate this in future blogs.
Infinite acceptance is a quality of your Loving source. Acceptance is part of your birthright! You can stop looking ‘out there’ for it and simply own it from within. The moment you begin to accept yourself fully, your outer reality will begin to miraculously change for the better. Doors will open, arms will open, hearts will open to accept you. You do not need to wait for someone ‘out there’ to give yourself the acceptance you need – more acceptance than you’ve dreamed possible is right there inside of you. Source/God accepts you. Your soul accepts you. Your Higher Self accepts you… And all you have to do is breathe it in. Aahhhh….
Many Blessings of Joy and Vibrant Freedom!
Action Step ~ Let go of seeking external acceptance and claim your self-acceptance from within. Declaration: “I am fully accepted. I accept myself.”
Additional Support: Listen to this 7-minute audio on Self-acceptance. This is a closed-eye process; please refrain from driving while listening.